Do You Know How to Shake Hands?
Comments (1) As a sophomore in James Madison University’s College of Business I am embarking on part two of the preparation courses that EVERY business student is required to take. Which brings me to 0800 (8am) on Tuesdays and Thursdays in room 201 with Mr. Daniel Zisk – I’m here for COB 202: Interpersonal Skills. Day two of class he brings up the ever nerve-racking situation of the handshake.
Whether you are being introduced to friends, someone in the work environment or some genre of celebrity a handshake is more than likely going to occur. The question is “do you know the proper way to shake someone’s hand?” Do you? I ask only because it is a very critical point; it as much part of a first impression as anything else. Has your mind got to thinking about how you shake someone’s hand yet? Mine certainly has. In fact it was something my dad pointed out to me at a rather young age, and something I have always tried remain conscientious of since.
The Technicalities
Although there is no definite way to shake each and every person’s hand (especially if you begin to look at business etiquette around the work- but that’s another topic), the following is what most will agree are the standards for a “proper” handshake.
-Eye contact is important. (In general eye contact is a good thing).
-Your handshake should be firm. You do not want to break a finger or make someone wince. Nor do you want to be a limp hand in someone else’s firm grasp. (This applies for both men and women; there are no gender differences in this situation).
-About one or two shakes is good. Beyond that and it could get awkward as the eye contact begins to get a bit intense.
-And release.
That’s really all there is to it.
The Complications
Despite the fact that it’s not too strenuous a gesture -not everyone is going to follow those same procedures. For example, you will run into those hand-crushers who are simply looking to exert their power. If that’s the case, don’t be afraid to allow your handshake to be a little firmer than usual – after all you do need your hand for other tasks.
Furthermore, you may run into those limp noodles whose hands you suddenly have to withdraw any sort of firmness for fear of breaking their hands. However, don’t completely give up your position- sooner or later that other person is going to need to learn how to shake hands themselves.
And lastly, there are those ever wonderful situations when both parties are not quite sure if a handshake is in order. I say go for it- a handshake is not a negative gesture. Simply try not to make any hesitation obvious and just be confident in your movement.
Good Luck. *shakes hand*
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